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Social norms are defined by Kendall, Murray, and Linden in Sociology in Our Times as “established rules Of behavior or standards of conduct” (664), while a social value is defined as “a collective idea bout what is right or wrong, good or bad, and desirable or undesirable in a particular culture” (668). These terms can be used fairly interchangeably; they both mean basically the same thing, with norms being the actual behaviors that are dictated by values. Such norms and values are shown in a multitude of ways throughout Pride and Prejudice.
There are norms associated with most every aspect of society, including the norms for class, money, gender, and marriage most commonly explored in Student’s novels. Austin shows society values both through satire and through presenting what she considers to be the better alternative. The society of Student’s time no doubt differs from today in many ways; however, when the actual values of society are closely examined, it becomes apparent that there are some fundamental similarities.
Money and class had a very strong influence on what was deemed ‘proper during the 19th century. The higher one’s class and economic level, the more highly respected one would be in society. Dairy, with his E 10 000 a year and landed gentry background, is the social superior of the Bennett, who make only EH a year and have connections to relations in the lower class. This social superiority is part of why Dairy initially insiders Elizabeth to be an unsuitable match for him.
In his first proposal to her, he asks her “Could you expect me to rejoice in the inferiority of your connections? To congratulate myself on the hope of relations, whose condition in life is so decidedly beneath my own? ” (168). His words emphasize the marked difference in their social standing and clarify for the reader how undesirable a marriage between different classes were considered at the time. Dairy is, at this point, very much the product of his society. As A. Walton Lilt states in his article “Into the Nineteenth Century: Pride and Prejudice”,
Dairy is “mindful of his relationship to society, proud of his social place, and aware of the restrictions that inevitably limit the free spirit” (65). Money gave a person power, and in many ways was considered the most important factor in a person’s social standing. Lady Catherine De Borough, for all her rudeness, is rich and therefore powerful and respected. The Bentleys, in spite of their comparatively low birth, have amassed a good deal of money which has allowed them to move up in society. A preoccupation with money, however, is certainly not unique to Student’s time.
Today, money still remains one of the remarry indicators of a person’s place in society, and is often used to make over-generalized statements about people in the same way that Dairy looked down on the Bennett’ lack of wealth. For example, one of the foremost questions people ask each other when they meet for the first time is Savant do you do? ‘ The other person’s answer provides numerous clues about the person’s wealth, status, and power. The person who answers ‘doctor’ is immediately seen as someone with more social standing than the person who answers ‘supermarket cashier’.
People today respect people who are rich and who have ‘made it in the world’. Although at the time of Pride and Prejudice, money inherited from a rich, important family was considered preferable to money made through work or trade in the manner of the Bentleys, the great value placed on wealth has varied little. People in the upper and middle classes were expected to behave in certain ways: namely, they were expected to be a lady or a gentleman. As Austin shows, however, that being an aristocrat by no means guaranteed that one was truly a lady or a gentleman.
Both ladies and gentlemen were expected to be considerate to others, respectful towards those less powerful than themselves, courteous, ND in control of their manners and appearance at all times. Flaunting one’s power was seen as rude and arrogant, and control over outward emotion was imperative. One of the primary examples of how Austin shows the values associated with a gentleman occurs with regard to Elizabethan early reactions to Dairy. Although rich, Dairy’s behavior proves that money is not enough to ensure respect.
In spite of the initial admiration he is given at the Longhorn ball, his popularity waned quickly: He was looked at with great admiration for about half the evening till his manners gave a disgust which turned the tide f his popularity; for he was discovered to be proud, to be above his company, and above being pleased; and not all his large estate in Derbyshire could then save him from having a most forbidding, disagreeable countenance, and being unworthy to be compared with his friend. 14) Dairy’s pride and his sense of superiority are considered rude and ungentlemanly behavior, and no amount of money or fine looks can save him from falling into disgrace with the people of Worcestershire. Later, when Dairy first proposes to Elizabeth, she shocks him when she angrily exclaims that “had [he] behaved in a more gentleman-like manner” (168), then she may eve felt concern in refusing him.
She goes on to say that from almost the moment they met, “[his] manners [impressed her] with the fullest belief of [his] arrogance, [his] conceit, and Chic] selfish disdain Of the feelings Of others” (168) and made him “the last man in the world whom [she] could ever be prevailed on to marry” (168). For Dairy, being told that he has not acted as a gentleman is a harsh shock, and he realizes that he must change his behavior. Later in the book, Darers true nature as a gentleman is revealed when Elizabeth goes to Pimpernel.
His housekeeper, Mrs.. Reynolds, describes him s “the best landlord, and the best master” (21 3), and she has nothing but praise for him. When Dairy arrives at Pimpernel, he proves himself to be courteous and well-mannered, and Elizabeth is amazed at “his behavior, so strikingly altered” (216). In Student’s world, merely being born an aristocrat does not make someone a lady or a gentleman. Lady Catherine De Borough is a prime example of the ill-breeding that can be found in people of high class and wealth.
She is a very rich, upper-class widow who owns a great deal of land and who has a great deal of power over her tenants. Her behavior, however, is not at all befitting of a lady. She is rude and inconsiderate, as she proves when Elizabeth visits her and later when she tries to force Elizabeth not to marry Dairy. When Elizabeth visits Risings, Lady Catherine talks constantly and “in so decisive a manner as proved that she was not used to having her judgment controverter” (145).
She exerts firm control over her tenants, and she spends a great deal of time telling them how to run their households, as can be seen when she “enquired into Charlotte domestic concerns familiarly and minutely, and gave her a great deal of advice, as to the management of them all” (145). Austin satirized Lady Catherine by resenting her unpleasantness in a near-comical manner. Mr.. Collins, too, is certainly not a gentleman. While he attempts to act in a courteous manner, he evidently has very little grasp on the nuances of society, as can be seen when he introduces himself to Mr..
Dairy and is ridiculed for doing so by the rest of the party. He is a figure of constant mockery, and the other characters in the novel look down upon him. Elizabeth is quite horrified by his mangled attempt at proposing to her, when he proves himself to be inconsiderate of her feelings and lacking any understanding Of how to act towards a Woman. He goes as far as to remind her of her fathers eventual death, claiming that she should marry him for that reason, and he dreadfully misinterprets her refusal to marry him as her “wish of increasing [his] love by suspense” (101).
He also constantly flaunts his connections to Lady Catherine and he spends a great deal of time talking about how much money she has. On the other side of the spectrum, however are the Gardeners. The Gardeners are from a low- class background and they live in a trade district of London. In spite of their low birth, however, they prove to be among the most admirable characters in he book. They are both kind-hearted and well-mannered, and when Lydia runs away, Mr.. Gardener does his best to assist the Bennett. Mr..
Collins, on the other hand, merely sends a letter telling them that ‘the death of [their] daughter would have been a blessing in comparison” (262) and blaming the Bennett for Lydia poor upbringing. The Gardeners act almost as surrogate parents for the Bennett daughters, and prove to be just and reasonable people. When Dairy meets the Gardeners at Pimpernel, he is forced to rethink his former belief in the ‘the inferiority of [Elizabethan] connections” 168), since in spite of their low-birth he can plainly see the inherent goodness of manner that the Gardeners possess.
The way in which Austin presents her various characters, and the ways in which other characters relate to each other, shows the conflicting values of her society. On the one hand, money is prized above everything and people from the lower-classes are looked down upon. On the other hand, a truly gentleman-like nature and a caring disposition are often prized above wealth. The behavior that was expected of women was very specific and highly stressed. Many conduct books that ascribed the proper behavior for women were published in the late 18th century, and continued to have an impact on the women in the early 19th century.
The Bennett are even shown to own a copy of James Force’s Sermons for Young Women, when Mr.. Collins reads a passage from the book in volume 1, chapter 14. Here, again, we see conflicting values. As the Lineman Cultural Edition of Pride and Prejudice states, “[the sermons’] lessons are pointedly and disastrously ignored by the one character who needs to listen” (385). This person is, of course, Lydia Bennett, who could in fact do with a few lessons in propriety.
On the other hand, as the book mutinous to state, “Austin, like many writers of her day, was clearly skeptical about the authoritativeness of condo cut-book stands of femininity’ (385). Education for young women at the time was usually minimal. They were taught “needlework, both for necessity and for pleasure; simple arithmetic; fine hand writing, which was considered a very elegant accomplishment; enough music to be able to sing and play… ; a little drawing… ; and some very scrappy ideas of history and geography/’ (El Fay 87-88).
For women educated at private seminaries, “the prime object was to instill Decorum, Manners, and Deportment” (El Fay 90). The emphasis on proper manners in Pride and prejudice is evident, and can be seen at the Nether-field Ball when Elizabeth is embarrassed by her mothers and younger sisters’ improper behavior: “To Elizabeth it appeared, that had her family made an agreement to expose themselves as much as they could during the evening, it would have been impossible for them to play their parts with more spirit, or finer success” (95). Certainly, Lydia disgraceful behavior shows the norms and values of the time.
In running off with a dishonorable man such as Hickman, she brings shame to her entire family. Sexual relations out of wedlock were taboo at the mime; Forced, in his Sermons, speaks of the suffering parents feel “when a daughter… Turns out unruly, foolish, wanton; when she disobeys her parents… ; when she throws herself away on a man unworthy of her… “. Mr.. Collins’ reaction, as stated earlier, would not have been uncommon at the time, especially among clergymen. Marriage was a crucial aspect of a woman’s life, and was indeed the only reputable way that she could live.
El Fay says, “Respectable young women could have no profession except matrimony, hence girls were expected to marry as soon as possible after they made their debut into society in their late teens” (1 13). There is a constant emphasis on marriage placed in Pride and Prejudice. The famous opening line of the book, “It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife” (1) sets up this theme, which proves to be one of the central aspects of the novel. When Mr.. Bentley first arrives in town, Mrs..
Bonnet’s primary concern is arranging for him to meet her daughters in the hopes that one of them would catch his eye. The numerous balls that the characters attend are designed largely for men and women to meet and interact in an environment that was appropriately happened and controlled. Lydia and Kitty speak of nothing but meeting handsome men – particularly soldiers – and making themselves look as attractive as possible. James Thompson says, “Prospective mates are chosen as if they were objects, as if marriage itself is not a relation between people, but rather assumes ‘the fantastic form of a relation between things” (155).
Yet, as Austin shows, women nonetheless were relatively free to pick and choose the man they preferred among those considered worthy. Thompson goes on to say that “… In Austin, marriage is never fully represented as an institution, but rather is represented only as an individual practice… ” (156). Elizabeth is, after all, was allowed to refuse Mr.. Collins. While her father probably could have forced her into the marriage had he wished it, her choice in the matter remained an important factor.
Austin considers Elizabethan and Dairy’s love to be ideal – unsurprising, considering that they are the protagonists, and the story revolves around their love. On the other hand, Charlotte Lacuna’s marriage of necessity to Mr.. Collins would have been cornrow of the time, since pragmatic concerns for survival must sometimes overcome romantic wishes. The main tragedy in the match is considered by the other characters to be that she will never be truly happy in her marriage, but even Elizabeth, with her idealistic views Of love, understands why Charlotte married Mr.. Collins.
Therefore, Austin shows how views of marriage in the early nineteenth century could be contradictory, sometimes revolving around love and sometimes being a matter of pragmatism. To a modern reader, the world of Jane Austin often seems very foreign, old- fashioned, and different from today. This is an understandable reaction, considering the differences in lifestyle and the comparative freedoms of our time. However, at the core, it seems that many things remain nearly unchanged. Women’s roles have undoubtedly changed, with women gaining much more freedom in regards to occupations, behavior, and legalities.
However, there is still a great deal of social pressure exerted on women to be attractive and to find a man. The media constantly pushes an ‘ideal’ female body, and if a woman does not live up to that standard then she can have difficulty starting a relationship. The emphasis on marriage may be less today, but a woman is often still expected to marry and have children, and if she does not, then she is often pressured by her peers. Although the expectations of proper behavior and manners are more relaxed today, politeness, courtesy, and consideration of others’ feelings are still deemed essential in everyday life.